tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4275513154255629748.post7857516313141454468..comments2023-06-13T21:41:58.442+10:00Comments on Musings of Another Mother: The Stay at Home Mum.Lenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01967670281829933493noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4275513154255629748.post-59592002297414942852011-09-07T20:27:27.117+10:002011-09-07T20:27:27.117+10:00Hi Lene. I love the way you think. I've been e...Hi Lene. I love the way you think. I've been exactly the same. Being an older Mum, I had such grand expectations of what life would be like as a parent and boy, was I wrong! It hit me like a ton of bricks. All I wanted all my life was to be a Mum and when it happened I hated it. I wanted my cake (ie clean, tidy, organised home, homegrown vegies, everything baked from scratch and clothes and homewares homemade) and to eat it too. Didn't work. I barely coped with day to day stuff with the kids (had a lot of help from social workers visiting me weekly and then monthly) and now I'm only just starting to really enjoy it.<br /><br />Since my first was born, I've probably had about 4 evening part time jobs. All was good in theory but who I was kidding trying to juggle it all. I love juggling it all now and sometimes I fail and sometimes I have pumpkin scones on the afternoon tea table (*wink wink*). I just wish I had a few more years on my side to have more (WHO SAID THAT? lol)<br /><br />Anne xxDomesblissityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270409725826410919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4275513154255629748.post-29208168003386550362011-09-07T08:12:06.511+10:002011-09-07T08:12:06.511+10:00well said! I decided to be a SAHM (my hubby has hi...well said! I decided to be a SAHM (my hubby has his own business and I do the books) at one point I was offered myold job and I took it thinking I could do it easily eough as I have one child only. Pffft... It was hard. out the door by 7:30 and not home till 6:30 (a lot of travel) luckily my husband could ick up the slack for me but it was stressful for us both! <br /><br />I quit the job and am at home, I can now pick my hours for hubby we chose to keep our days at daycare (naughty, naughty... But it works for preparation to school next year) I have just started a writing course and I am really happy for the first time in along time! <br /><br />Now when they ask what exactly I do all day, I tend to tell them it is really busy going out to the shops and drinking coffee ALL day LOL. I now think they are secretly jealous of me because it takes a certain type of woman who can be a SAHM, it just took me returning to work to realise what I really wanted!Carhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17412323070595507627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4275513154255629748.post-6970871342487428052011-09-05T17:21:03.648+10:002011-09-05T17:21:03.648+10:00Hi Lene. And who was the very thoughtful (pfft) p...Hi Lene. And who was the very thoughtful (pfft) person who was hinting in that conversation that being a mother is not something you "do"? A mother themselves? I'd be very surprised!<br />I was going to say, you don't have to justify your decision to anyone! Then I read your second last paragraph.<br />Being a mum is the most IMPORTANT job in the world, and you can't understand that until you are a mum yourself. I don't know how you do it with four, honestly, I only have one and I find the home stuff overwhelms me often.<br />I wish I could be a stay at home Mum. It's a time you'll never get back if you're working. Unfortunately for us it's just not feasible.Janellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06459852025135239788noreply@blogger.com